Some people are homosexual magnets. Some people are stalker magnets. However, a whole bunch of the female population is susceptible to a very popular kind of magnetism - jerk magnetism. I can go to great lengths in this blog discussing this *ahem* vulnerability or preference (if you may), but I believe much has been written about this already (yeah, I actually googled "jerks" before working on this post :D). I've decided to list down instead, my three *favorite* kinds of jerks for your reading, and perhaps, relating pleasure.
1. The Jerk Who Actually Tells You He's A Jerk
Huh? The jerk who actually admits he's a jerk, saying, "I'm not really looking for anything serious at all," or "I'm really not the committing type." Of course, it's not necessary that he tells you, tells you. Because how many guys actually admit to being a jerk (hey, I know a few!)? If he has a girlfriend/wife that you actually know of (because he told you) and he has no intentions of leaving her, he is actually telling you he's a jerk.
Redeeming Factor: Let's give it to him, he's actually honest about being a jerk. Maybe a little too unapologetic and still pursuing you regardless (why oh why?), but still... he's honest (dwelling on the honesty here people!). Woohoo! :D This one's actually on you.
Tell Yourself: I'm stupid beyond words if I actually fall for this one. Next!
2. The Jerk Who's So Confused He Actually Drags You Along
Huh? You know him. He's the guy who actually doesn't know what he wants. Or thinks he knows that he wants then becomes quite unsure after. We're thinking possibly going around in circles here. Whatever his inner battles are, it shows in his actions. How he (perhaps) unwittingly runs hot and cold on you. He can't drop you like a hot potato because maybe you're actually what he wants (he's just not 101% sure). But he can't give you a clear take on where things are going either because (and I whisper) he doesn't know.
Redeeming Factor: He's clueless. Like a lost, sick puppy. How can you fault a lost, sick puppy? Boo-freakin'-hoo.
Tell Yourself: Confusing myself is hard enough. Am I really gonna let someone else confuse me too? Next!
3. The Jerk Who's Just Not That Into You
Huh? Ah, I actually borrow from Greg and Liz' bestselling and all-in-all stellar book on this one (although they actually lumped
everything up in one big HJNTIY). This one's the jerk you actually blame for your sheer blindness to the fact that despite your greatest hope and/or effort... He's. Just. Not. That. Into. You. This one's actually difficult to accept because maybe at some point he actually found you interesting. So much so that he messages/texts/calls/sings to you everyday for a week or two. Or a month. Or however long it was. But guess what? That's no guarantee that he'll actually be in like or in love (rolls eyes) with you forever. And beside the exponential decay you're seeing (as opposed to growth) is a hug red flag. Waving as if to say, "I'm oh so obviously here." But why, you ask, does he still respond to your messages or answers your calls? Because he's being polite. Because he doesn't wanna have to ask you why you're still not getting the hint.Redeeming Factor: Technically speaking, he's not really a jerk. He's just not that into you. And his actions speak for themselves. Loud and clear.
Tell Yourself: He's really just not that into me! What part of that can I not understand? Next!
There you go... my three *favorite* jerks. Allow me to wrap up with my favorite line from Liz and Greg's book: Don't waste the pretty.
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